This conversation is currently going on in my office and since the big ole VD is coming up, I thought I'd write.
Why do we say "Fall in Love" and not "Jump in love"?
Said by the Indiana Jones lookin doctor: So that we don't have to take responsibility.
Said by my sassy pants co-worker: I don't fall in love. I choose every day to be in love.
I like her.
I think we fall because it's not a choice. When we first meet someone, whether it be The One or The One Right Now, we fall because we're not expecting it. We're not watching where we're going. It catches us off guard and before we know it we're down on the ground with scraped knees, doing the embarrassing giggly girly laugh and hoping he'll reach down and help us back up.
It's easy. Just today I fell in love with a grilled muenster cheese sandwich (it was divine!).
Falling means you haven't seen each other pee, haven't been around when someone is in the first stages of a sinus infection (that's when it's hardest to love me) or haven't forgotten to take the trash out.
Mister Manly Man and I have been through all that. Our falling in love days are over. I appreciate and love Josh, more than he'll ever know, but we both fell. And landed. So what's next?
Jumping in love (I'm making this a thing). To make the choice every day to be in love. Jumping is what you do after you fall. People don't accidentally jump. It's a conscious decision, an effort. Sometimes it's work. I have to make a choice to jump in love with Josh. It's a choice I haven't been making lately. I'm ashamed to admit that. It's easy to get stuck in the work/home/school/kid rut and forget that we were once in our mid 20's and fell in love.
So as we approach VD, I am resolved to jump in love with my husband. To remember when we dated and why we fell in love in the first place. I'm also #dreamboarding this, because it's that important.
*Note, I think there is a distinct difference between being "in love" and "loving someone." Yes, I'm one of those people. I see being in love as more of a romantic gesture. Please don't think that I don't love Josh, because nothing could be further from the truth. He's the one I choose to be with, to parent with, to grow old with.